A question that you often ask yourself would be “What did I do wrong”? Or “Why did they suddenly lost interest me”? Well, more than often there is not just one reason why someone distances one’s self, and it is not as simple as one solution or a cause. Everyone functions differently and deal with their problems and reasons according to their personalities.
There could be multiple reasons they lost interest, and they could vary in gender, psychologically and even biologically. Reading this article may not solve your every problem but it will give you an idea of reasons why your partner suddenly lost interest.
If you are also sitting at the edge of your bed, waiting for their message with half bitten nails and overthinking every possible thing that you could have done differently, then this is for you.
Caring too Much Cause to Lose Interest
This is applicable on men as well as women both but differently. If you are a women who’s paying too much attention to your man then stop immediately. Men need space, they get overwhelmed and over stimulated really fast. You need to give them space, they are a little slow in processing things. If you are complaining too much, smothering them too much, they will pull back a little and lose interest . Here is a little tip for my girls. If you need to complain, you need to use a sandwich method.
What is a Sandwich Method? I’ll explain. You need to sandwich your complain between two compliments for e.g.
“I love how you are working hard for us, I really appreciate it, but these days I feel we are a little distant, we talk less, I get you already try really hard for us”
See what I did? I voiced my issue but also did not make him feel responsible, men get a little defensive when they feel all the burden is on them and lose interest.
You also need to show you are happy, living your own life and your happiness does not depend on him, do your own activities and show them you are happy without talking to them.
For Men
If you are a male fighting for your girl’s attention, rules are a little different for you. Men usually do a lot of efforts in the beginning of the relationship, efforts to win the girl but slowly they start taking them for granted, suddenly the issues will appear more, you will talk less, message less and meet less. Women often try in the beginning, but slowly they will stop complaining, stop having issues and you might think “Wow, she has gotten so much understanding” Nope. She is learning to live without you and will lose interest eventually . If you see these signs you need to up your game and win her back.
Your efforts should be consistent, always act like you are still trying to win her, flirt, give flowers for no reason, and compliment her. Women don’t need a lot, just your attention. Notice little things about her, and see her face light up on littlest things.
Lacking Confidence
One of the most common reasons why people lose interest is because the person they’re dating lacks confidence. Confidence counts a lot. Consider a person and we all know at least one who is physically unattractive, yet has many dating options. Everyone was questions how Pete Davidson dates such beautiful women, or how Benny Blanco married Selena Gomez. Well, they’re funny and confident and that matters a lot. The reason they do so well is that people are drawn to their confidence. Insecurities may not be obvious right from the start, which is why two people could go out a few times before one person has a change of heart.
Most importantly just value yourself, the moment you put yourself first, prioritize your mental health, every thing will begin to change. Don’t be a chaser, be the chase.
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