Muslims clearly do not know how to set boundaries! Enclosing themselves within cultural values and norms that affect humans mentally, socially, and physically. Islam encourages humans to set boundaries by being kind but never letting people overstep. Moreover, Islam encourages peace-keeping but suggests distancing from people who cause harm. Indulging in cultural norms, Muslims tend to let people cross boundaries, letting them destroy mental peace.
While desi culture is welcoming and heart-warming, many norms in South Asian communities often traumatize generations. From overstepping to commenting on every failure to questioning life choices. The South Asian community confuses concern with snooping into someone’s business.
Patient Avoidance of Harmful Speech:
Islam recommends “becoming avoidance,” meaning to distance oneself in a manner that preserves one’s dignity and values, rather than engaging in a way that would lead to further harm or compromise. The Quran says, “And bear patiently what they say and avoid them with a becoming avoidance.”- Surah Al-Muzzammil (73:10).
Prohibition of Ridicule, Defamation, and Insult:
Moreover, the religion is often confused with cultural values, letting people interfere with values and principles. The Quran directly forbids speech that causes emotional distress and damages relationships: It states,
“O you who have faith! Let not any people ridicule another people: it may be that they are better than they are; nor let women ridicule women: it may be that they are better than they are. And do not defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. An evil name is transgression after faith! And whoever is not penitent, such are the wrongdoers.” (Surah Al-Hujurat, 49:11)
Seeking Permission to Enter-Privacy
An important boundary often violated by South Asians is privacy, let it be among spouses, a teenage girl, or any individual. Islam emphasizes the importance of seeking permission before entering another’s private space, thereby maintaining modesty, respect, and preventing discomfort or intrusion. Quran states, “O you who believe, let those whom your right hands possess and those who have not reached puberty among you ask permission (to enter) at three times.” (Quran, 24:58).
Islam provides clear guidance on setting respectful boundaries, promoting kindness without self-compromise. However, cultural norms in South Asian communities often override these teachings, leading to emotional and social harm. Distinguishing religion from culture is crucial for preserving both dignity and mental peace.
