‘Too afraid to be talked about’: The Taboo of Pakistan society

Taboo needs to be discussed; We are just too afraid, uncomfortable, or ignorant to start the conversation


For what reason is taboo considered as the things we shouldn’t talk about?

Taboo is something an individual SHOULDN’T talk about it openly, common in numerous societies, both antiquated and contemporary.

Nobody in the past could’ve envisioned all the opportunities we have now and the roads that have been opened up due to the advanced age. As the internet turns out to be increasingly imbued in the Pakistani society, we see bunches of changes happening all the while. Also, its time to advance into the future and put a stop to the deep-rooted taboos and traditions.

The vast majority fear being judged for their opinions, would prefer not to get into a heated discussion, or couldn’t care less to gain some new useful knowledge. Be that as it may, talking about these taboo topics are important to discover answers for the issue as well as to promote our social brains in general society.

Here are a couple of things in our nation that are still so wrong and things we need to recognize for the duration of regular day to day existence with the objective that everyone can live in peace, instead of pieces:

1- Divorce

We all should get second chances in life, shouldn’t we? Then why is being a divorcee such a taboo?

It’s completely ironic to perceive how our society reacts to divorce. The same society that says to provide women with the maximum recognize, is the one that doesn’t wait for mere seconds before blaming the lady for divorce. She is taken into consideration a coward for giving up on any such divine courting and for not placing up with the traditions that each woman supposedly goes through. The log of our society make sure that every second after her divorce isn’t smooth for her. She will become a public asset for each person to touch upon and is considered a burden by using her circle of relatives.

Couples in failed marriages are advised in our society to tolerate violence and disloyalty, all in the name of Izzat (honour).

Sabr rakho!

Khandan ki izzat ki baat hai!

There is no izzat in residing a miserable lifestyle!

It’s about time that we need to acknowledge that separation is certainly not a terrible thing when relationships don’t work out, it has no reason staying in one and commandingly asks individuals to ‘make things work’.

2- Mental health

Mental Health issues are genuine, with a larger number of individuals encountering them than one can envision.

Unfortunately, for reasons unknown or the other, the general public has made it exceedingly troublesome for those suffering from mental health issues to be vocal about it. They expect that talking about it would sideline them, mark them as a “crazy person,” or name them as a “risk.”

A society where somebody attempts to look for treatment is termed pagal, ridiculed and made a joke of,  is a society that desperately requires a more extensive viewpoint.

Anam Tanoli’s death proves that we still don’t know how to talk about mental illness.

On this occasion, Momina Mustehsan shared her picture while she was suffering from depression which was criticized by stylist Anaum Hammad, who accused Momina of “misrepresenting depression” and being “irresponsible.” Others jumped in to criticise what they called a ‘pretty, sad girl aesthetic.’

Momina responded to this, “The aim is to de-stigmatize, not compete in who’s the better depression representative”.

3- Sex

Neither of the parents are particularly interested in discussing this topic with their children.

The plain truth is that many parents are basically embarrassed to talk about such things with their children. Sex is the absolute most difficult and sensitive theme about which parents need to converse with their kids.

Sahi waqt par pata chal jayega“, as it goes.

Why are people who talk about this topic considered to be a “begairat?”

Parents can remove the taboo from the topic of sex and enroll in the push to re-establish light and truth to the sacred subject of sexuality.

4- Transgender

Transgender community faces discrimination in Pakistan and is not acknowledged by society.

They are related to begging and prostitution – a generalization that is reinforced by the media.

Often on roadsides, we see the transgenders are mocked by wider society and addressed as “Hijra” or “Khusra.”

Encountering separation may cause a significant amount of mental pressure, regularly leaving transgender people to ponder whether they were victimized in light of their sexual orientation character or sex articulation.

The government should plan to work on some long-term ventures to make them beneficial subjects and give them the privilege to work, what’s more, let them acquire property.

5- Abuse

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Mishandle, in any frame, isn’t alright. As Pakistanis, we’re familiar with taking the chappals or hanger beating from our folks. Be that as it may, when that abuse leaves physical and mental scars, that is the place lines should be drawn.

Casualties of abuse, be it in a marriage or by one’s parent, are likewise hushed. This quiet, on the casualty’s part, roots from the fear of the abuser. To the extent families are concerned, they’re either anxious about being judged by society or dread activating further manhandle as a response to standing up.

Legitimately, abuse is frequently forgotten about as andar ka maamla. Various cases go unreported and those that do get detailed are not enlisted.

How is this alright and for what reason do we not discuss this?

6- Questions about Religion

Scarcely any individuals ever need to talk about religion since it quite often closes in a warmed debate. Everybody thinks their religion is the correct religion. In our general public, we have an issue with tolerating others varying conclusions and perspectives. Talking about religion can enable us to find out about different societies. It can likewise enable us to evacuate this unbreakable restricting connection between one’s ethnicity/race, their religion, and the violations they confer.

It’s not blasphemous to ask questions out of genuine curiosity.

A lot of times, kids, adolescents, and even grown-ups have questions. What they require is clarity, not somebody instructing them to shut up.

Truth be told, addressing something that doesn’t make sense well just aides in enhancing your comprehension and learning.

Wouldn’t that make your confidence more grounded?